Choosing the ‘Beautiful Way’
GREENSBORO — It was a storybook scene. Amid the stately residences, peaceful park and majestic trees of her Sunset Hills neighborhood, Mary Van der Linden, one of seven children, walked to and from her elementary school each day. Perhaps the only feature to rival the beauty of her daily journey, whether on foot or wheels (after her family moved), was the destination – the striking Gothic architecture of the neighborhood’s Catholic church, where her family worshiped and the children attended school.
It was Our Lady of Grace, an ideal setting for Van der Linden as she unknowingly began her quest to reveal another kind of beauty – one that would culminate in the publishing of her first book, “Beautiful Way,” in 2022. At the school, the students did a lot of writing. Van der Linden was encouraged by her teachers and won an essay contest in eighth grade about the school’s uniform policy.
“Writing a book has been a dream of mine since I was young,” said Van der Linden. “Our Lady of Grace School influenced me a lot as a writer. Multiple times I can think of in fourth, seventh and eighth grade I had teachers tell me that I have a flair for writing, and that did so much for my confidence. I’ve had that in the back of my mind – that I’m a decent writer – and all these years later my Catholic education is still having an impact.”
“Beautiful Way” is a coming-of-age story that follows two teenage girls as they learn to navigate other cultures and religions, bullying, newfound interests, and seeing others for who they are rather than what is on the surface. The story began forming when Van der Linden’s daughter Claire was dealing with typical social and best friend issues in the third grade.
Van der Linden began telling Claire a bedtime story to help her learn to develop new friendships. The story grew in detail and popularity over time, and Claire even asked her mother to share it during one of her sleepovers. The result, some 20 years later, is “Beautiful Way,” which follows eighth-grader Natalie as she welcomes her new neighbor Patrizia Bellavia (“beautiful way” in Italian) to their Greensboro school.
Patrizia is from an Italian Catholic family. The inspiration for the Bellavia family is a collection of many experiences and people Van der Linden has known through the years, along with the author’s rich imagination. Van der Linden’s parents always welcomed exchange students, and Van der Linden herself spent time as an international student living with her good friend Tita and her family after they moved to Caracas, Venezuela. Tita and Van der Linden met at Our Lady of Grace and are still close friends today.
In the book, Natalie and Patrizia become fast friends, despite their differences, and they even carve out a path in the woods between their homes. The two learn and grow together as they face bullying, unfamiliar customs and religious practices in the Catholic and Jewish faiths, and the brokenness that is universal to the human condition as they come to a deeper understanding of a difficult loss suffered by a classmate and his family.
“If we are truly worshipping God and practicing our faith, we are being inclusive to others, we are being kind, and we are being loving toward our brothers and sisters in humanity. It was really important for me to have that be a theme in the story,” Van der Linden said.
In the book, Van der Linden adeptly covers difficult territory as Patrizia introduces the rosary to Natalie, whose family is Methodist.
“In my adult life as a Catholic, I came to understand and love the rosary, and I really wanted to explain why Catholics pray the rosary to the best of my ability to somebody who thinks it’s weird,” she said.
Mary Van der LindenNatalie and Patrizia also gain an appreciation for Jewish customs when the two visit their friend Josh’s house for Chanukah and discover the richness of the faith and its connections to their own, something Van der Linden has come to understand well through her interfaith marriage. The differences have enriched her life, she said, while she continues to grow in her Catholic faith.
“The Sacred Heart of Jesus is what defines Catholicism for me, and that is the core of our faith – that is the Communion, the heart of Jesus,” Van der Linden said.
“Everything was made through Him, so every person of a different faith, different color, different status was made through Him, and I really wanted to make sure that whatever I put out there had that reflection of how Jesus sees us, not so much how we divide ourselves.”
— Annie Ferguson
Get a copy
To order a copy of “Beautiful Way,” go to www.barnesandnoble.com or www.amazon.com or email Mary Van der Linden at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..